There are some important things you should know.
1. As you continue to grow in Christ, there are some people that just won't be in acceptance to it, believe it or not. It's sad, but extremely accurate. but we must remind ourselves that the world hated Jesus Christ, and as we keep being bold for him the world will eventually hate us too because it hated him first. | John 15:18 | Some friends will keep a distance from you unexpectedly, you may question out of curiosity, but don't let it become such a burden on you. Don't drive yourself crazy with those "what am I doing?" thoughts, its not you, it's God doing what is best for you. So if people randomly disappear in your life, don't instantly think you're the one to blame.
Honey, it's Christ living within you. Be grateful for who God is protecting you from. Those friends who you use to have so much fun with has died on you ever since Christ step into your life. That is why it starts to feel awkward, conversations are brief, and the moment seems dry because there simply isn't much to talk about when your mind is open to the heart of Christ, and the others are still having big fun in the world. He's changed you and sometimes it is hard for the individual to come to terms with the "new" you. They miss the worldly you, and living for God just isn't cutting it for them. Don't be hurt, rejoice. God wants you to learn how to discern whether it is a true friendship or not, he knows the answer, he's just teaching you to know the difference. He won't fool you and definitely is not going to let you fool yourself.
Some friends won't understand your decision to live for Christ, but don't let them dictate how you should live because they are not your savior. We must stop living to please our friends, our only goal is to please Christ. You don't need people's approval to do the will of your Father. | Galatians 1:10 |
2. Close friends are only tricky to discern when you're not in tuned with the spirit, especially if you do not know if the friendship was God ordained or fleshly. For one, since they are your close friend, you hold truth into knowing that that person is not going anywhere no time soon regardless if they are living for the world, you enjoyed living for the world with them. Notice I said "enjoyed", now that you're in full effect in your walk with Christ. How "close" are you not being?
Where am I going with this? Okay, listen. Most times, when we've grown up, that friend notices how "different" you appear to be, they can take it as a negative or positive, depending on how they're thinking. They may determine how close you guys really are by setting up worldly events to see how "real" you'll be in engaging again, and totally ignore your new life in Christ. If you deny, then something is odd about you and the friendship now becomes questionable. This is a pure example of :
1 Peter 4:4 "Of course your former friends are surprised when you no longer plunge into the flood of wild and destructive things they do, so they slander you."
When you no longer do what the flesh wants, stand firm against those who slander you. The Holy Spirit alarms you in times of what you should be paying attention to in regards to those friends who you think are close. Close friends should never pressure you into doing something you just aren't into doing anymore.
3. If that person is your close friend, then no close friend should ever feel intimidated, but inspired by your growth unless they're convicted about what isn't growing on their part and are vulnerable towards needing the help. Close friends work through it together, rather if one already has a solid foundation in Christ and the other is still seeking, as close friends, the one that has the solid foundation becomes selfless enough to help the other build their firm foundation in Christ. Hold each other accountable in love. No matter how hard it may be, you still congratulate, honor, love, pray, and embrace your close friend. You guys are both happy to have each other and be each other's motivation in helping one another grow. That friend should respect your path in life and be supportive of all your decisions as Christ leads you instead of assuming you're funny for no longer living for the world.
If you have a so called close friend who treats you the opposite from what the spirit desires in a godly friendship, get quiet before the Lord, ask him to reveal the truth into some friendships. And keep an open mind that even with those unhealthy friendships, don't think of them as bad, learn from them, appreciate them, because God is always teaching. He gives us more insight of why that person was placed in our lives at that time that they were. So don't take those unhealthy friendships as a waste, they were to teach you to start discerning about every friendship that you have.
It is important for you to pray and ask God to give you the discernment of the people in your life.
We seek to have more godly friendships, and sometimes get discourage in the right now environment. Stay encouraged. He is so faithful. Keep on serving him. And he'll send the right people at the right time. Don't you worry about why certain people aren't as interactive anymore, just be grateful that God has distance you from who would've been such a distraction in your spiritual walk.
You're his child and because he loves you so much, he wants to teach you, prune you, and grow you into who he has call you to be, and you need that support system to keep you going, to encourage you on your weary days. To pray for you when it is hard to utter a word. To love you unconditionally because you're their close friend, a friend ordained by the amazing God who knows who is best for your life. Pray about the friendships in your life and ask God to give you the truth. If it hurts, that is good. God cuts those branches that doesn't produce fruit. | John 15:2 | God cuts those people who aren't beneficial to that producing fruit.
If you currently have an amazing godly friendship, cover them. The enemy is always looking for relationships/friendships to destroy. Don't let him get a piece of what God put together. Keep on loving each other as sisters/brothers. You make the Lord smile with how much love you have for one another. Being faithful to that one godly friend increase more of them in your life. Keep trusting God.
Go in peace and oh also, don't forget to discern. I love you.
Love, Desjane.
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